Re: i've joined the club
Yes, fly tying is a big learning curve but the satisfaction of tying your own flies is well worth the effort. You might try putting a hook in the vise, spinning some thread on there and slowly tighting down until it breaks and try to remember how much pressure you are applying. Do this for a few times until you get the feel for where the breaking point is.
For beginners, I always recommend picking up a copy of Charlie Craven's "Basic Fly Tying", you will be miles ahead in the long run. He has some wonderful tips on tying techniques that will do you well, for example, how to place material on the hook so that when you tighten the thread down it is in the place you want it. That can be extremely frustrating for beginners. The other thing that will go a longs ways is getting some hands on lessons if available in your area. Most fly shops offer fly tying lessons during the winter months, check around and see if there is anything available in your area. Best of luck. If all else fails post your questions here, we have some amazing tiers on the forum that can provide help.