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Old 06-28-2013, 03:52 PM
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Life as it has been and will be, and the aging process all have conspired to "temper" my immediate first impressions and impulses to react. I've lived through some "dark days" and have seen what "outside pressures" can do to the best of folks, and I've tried hard to learn from those experiences. If I've had any sort of "advantage" in dealing with life's issues, it would rest in the fact that I had no short supply of "sounding boards," if you will, to set me right again.

Beyond all that, however, credit for who I am must be given to my grandparents, and my "elders" astream and afield who influenced me most. Their beliefs in life were simple and direct, but more effective than one could imagine. They believed in...

Compassion before criticism...

Reservation before deciding on damnation...

Due consideration before final judgment...

They also held to the credo that no one was beyond redemption...

In my own way, I try to honor both their memories AND their beliefs whenever I can, as they all had a certain sort of personal greatness to which I aspire...
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In life, as in all else, everything has what I like to call a "carrying capacity," a rating system of the "loads/burdens" that can be piled on without threatening the fine balance that we strive for on a daily basis. Last night, a man whose "personal redemption" I once questioned, found himself dangerously close to his tipping point. This morning, he dropped me an e-mail...

As most of you will remember, the man who was the catalyst for this thread pushed a few buttons along our stretch of the river, the immediate result being a quick, and some might say "harsh," condemnation. The rush to judgment soon was tempered as his story unfolded over the coming days, and he and his sons became the most unlikely sources of hope imaginable.

Today, that change in mindset in his household has been threatened by something that me and mine know all too well-- cancer. He and his wife found out yesterday that she has a form of breast cancer, and it was obvious by his e-mail that the weight of the news is literally crushing him.

So, I've issued an invitation for an evening of riverside "fish talk," where no subject is off-limits. When we meet tomorrow-- we being my retired chief oncologist, "Doc," me and the man in question --we will take to the porch next to the river and let him vent. Once finished, "Doc" then can work his magic of knowledge, as I'm told that the cancer in question is very treatable and has a very high survival rate. Rather than forcing the man to listen to my ham-handed explanation, the details will carry more credence coming from "Doc."

The art of a good life and living it well brings with it no shortage of challenges, sometimes causing one to re-write the occasional chapter. I'm only hoping-- and praying a bit --that our "chat" tomorrow evening will help the man continue his journey toward writing the best of books, for both him and his family...
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"The art of a good life and living it well brings with it no shortage of challenges, sometimes causing one to re-write the occasional chapter. I'm only hoping-- and praying a bit --that our "chat" tomorrow evening will help the man continue his journey toward writing the best of books, for both him and his family... "

Hang in with him, there are times where you "Just have to go scream at the trees." The trees are there for him; times like this you define the world 'helpless.' You want, but you can't.

I think you have a great Doctor on your team.

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Later today, as the heat starts to retreat with the sun settling lower in the western skies, I will sit quietly and just listen... Listen to the laments of a man being battered by forces beyond his control, listen to his concerns about the future and what it carries with it, and listen as he desperately tries to find his way through it all. The best favor that I can do for this man is to act as a sounding board and go-between in his introduction to "Doc."

Then, I will listen again as "Doc" does what he does best-- lend comfort and support, and quietly raise the flag of hope for this man. "Doc" is one of the finest men that I've ever known, and one phenomenal retired oncologist. His lot in life truly is that of "a healer," and I have little doubt that the man in question will leave our little "riverside chat" carrying more peace of mind than he'll have upon his arrival.

Over the years, I've seen "Doc" mend the most troubled of souls, myself included. He's always been of an "old-school" mentality in his approach to medicine and his patients, taking the time to care and check in on occasion, even when it went well beyond his "office hours." And, I've always respected that about the man.

So, later tonight, he will put to rest many of the fears of the man in question, and gift him with the tools to see beyond the pending situation. How can I be so sure of this? Because "Doc" has often done the same for me on more occasions than I can count, and because "Doc" has asked his daughter-- my current chief oncologist --to make room on her schedule to see the man and his wife. And, "Doc's" daughter is as good as they come. Of that, I can attest as well...
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Unless I miss the mark completely, I feel safe in assuming that there is more of an "at ease" mindset this morning in the household of a man who lives a few hours south of here. Last night, I fought off the urge to insert myself into the conversation and just watch-- and listen --as "Doc" verbally composed a symphony of hope for the days ahead, as the man, his wife and family ready themselves to face the trials and tribulations of her breast cancer.

Seeing "Doc" at work in his particular niche was both a reminder of why our former "doctor/patient" encounter led to a long-running friendship, and an acknowledgement of his place as a true "maestro" in soothing troubled souls and helping people understand a disease that defies true explantion. When our "guest" arrived, he appeared beaten and defeated before the battle had begun. When the man left, he had the look of determination and assurance, a man spoiling for a fight and thoroughly ready for it.

Having witnessed this transformation over the course of a few hours spent chatting in the "river porch," I find myself still in awe of "Doc's" ability to inspire and inform. He always has done it in such a way as to push the fears aside and to motivate patients and their families to face their cancer head-on and kick its backside on down the road.

And, I have little doubt that this man-- he whose redemption I once wondered about --and his family will ultimately come through this "life trial" in fine shape. You see, I'm a firm believer in the healing capabilities of a positive mindset liberally salted with the power of knowledge. After all, my "elders" and my family have taught me as much...
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You read posting like this and your heart just tear's out.

Even Men in their 70's can cry ... a lot. News yesterday, another of "My Band of Brothers" gave it up.

Keep us posted and up to date.

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Fred,

Will do. Having had the chance last evening to chat with my younger "Doc," I know for a fact that she's already made the calls to get copies of the tests and records sent to her. Before the week is out, the man and his wife will sit in her office and hear her "battle plans," as she likes to call her approach, to fight and defeat the cancer. She's a lot like her father in that regard...

And, as I've known my current chief oncologist since her late high-school years, I have no doubt that the man and his wife will be in the best of hands. After all, she's managed to continue "Dad's" work and keep me alive and kicking... and that's no easy feat!! Just ask her about my on-again, off-again approach to following "doctor's orders" and the "bad habits" that nearly drive her to distraction-- pipes, cigars, a good scotch or gin, and all inspired by hanging around the senior "Doc..."
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So hear you. Been with my Doctor since the mid-'90's and he's a 'Guy Doctor.' Old men just tell Craig the truth. I had a long'ish list of 'truths' written down last week.

Few years back I was getting my annual check up and he has a new (finishing up her Residency) young lady Doctor in his office. One of the most beautiful women I've ever seen in my life. "Do you mind seeing a Woman Doctor?" I kid you not, I was asked.

She's sitting two feet in front of me thumping me on the chest with her forefinger giving me a list of DON'T DO THAT ANY MORE's. Don't remember a word she said, but I'll never forget the grey-green eyes.
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I've been a "keep it in the family" sort of patient over the last 30+ years. For my orthopedic work-- bad knees, two broken back and myriad other breaks and fractures --I've now officially bridged three generations of the same family of orthopedic specialists, now seeing Dr. B. Mayne, III after starting with his grandfather, then his Dad, and now him. If I live long enough, I may well end up being treated by Dr. B. Mayne IV!

And, as for my oncology work? "Doc"-- the father --began my cancer battles with me nearly 16 years ago before passing over the reins for my care to "Doc," his daughter. And, to me-- a father with only daughters --she's akin to an adopted daughter in her own right, as I've known her that long!

And, therein may well lie the problem as to why she doesn't let me get away with anything. Besides, with the women of this household on her side, I'm watched like a hawk and made to toe the line. Well, kind of...
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Hang in Bro., there is light at the end of the Tunnel and it IS NOT an on coming train.

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