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In the quiet of the last twilight hours yesterday, my wife and I sat with a man and his wife to hear the results of tests ran over the last few days. His wife wanted us to hear it from them both, as I'd played a small part in helping to facilitate a lot of things in their home life. Me and mine were touched, and a little honored, to be honest with you.

The verdict on his wife's breast cancer exam? "Doc" the younger, will be handling the woman's treatments for a cancer that "Doc" feels can be remedied effectively and more easily than others originally thought! His wife was one of the fortunate few, in that it was caught early and is among the more curable forms of the disease.

It was at that point that the male half of this four-person equation decided to take a walk along the river and let the women talk, cry, laugh and share whatever other emotions came to mind. As he and I followed the small path along the river's edge, he stopped occasionally just to gaze down at the currents working their way downriver. Then, in a small, nearly inaudible voice and while still staring at the waters, he simply said "Thank you for everything you've done."

Gratitude acknowledged and accepted, we turned on our heels and made our way back to the river porch, the return trip as quiet and introspective as the first leg of the journey. I've long acknowledged that there is magic in the currents of any good trout stream. The knowledge that a little of that aforementioned "magic" had made it ashore pleased me to no end...
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An update on the events of the last week or so... As things currently stand, the man who was the "jumping-off point" for this thread, and his family-- WIFE and sons --now have many good years ahead of them. Thanks to "Doc," the younger-- my chief oncologist and daughter of my former specialist/now valued fishing cronie --the breast cancer has been neutralized and removed, and after a few treatments, the man's wife should be right as rain again. And, that, my friends, is very good news, especially for this aging cancer survivor...

"Doc," the younger, again worked her own rendition of her father's "magic," in applying his bulldog sort of mentality and tenaciousness to put back into play that feeling of "hope" that we who've faced the cancer demons all strive to realize. And, as usual, she did it in spades!!

So, come the first turning of colors later this Fall, me and mine will have "visitors" to our little place on the river, as I've invited the man, his wife and his sons to come north for a little Fall fishing. And, if it all works as planned, the lot of us will make the trek over to "Trail's End" toward evening, a place where the hilltop porch allows one a grand venue to take in the overview of the "river's-edge" woodlands.

You see... "Trail's End" is one of those rare places that has inspired no shortage of creativity, both on-stream and off. I'm hoping that it will prompt a continuing "authorship" of sorts in the man's own personal journaling of a life spent astream with his sons, and in the best of ways...
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Epilogue... With the surrounding ferns having yellowed and now brown, and the first "hard frosts" kicking the colors into gear, life here in Michigan's north country has brought with it the changes I so eagerly anticipate each year. And, the events of this week most recently past carried with them a sense of satisfaction that still lingers...

You see, I had the honor and the pleasure of watching an old AuSable riverboat disappear around the bend just downriver from "Trail's End," eased along by a good friend and carrying a man and his wife who needed such a float trip. Though planned for later this Fall, the float was moved up, thanks in no small part to the woman's response to her cancer treatments and the news that she's going to be just fine. Her breast cancer was caught early, and her body is rallying in the best of ways.

And, for this couple, I couldn't be happier. I once worried that the news of her illness would virtually break a man who'd come so far from our earlier and vastly different "introduction." Instead, he made me proud of the fact that we'd invested time and effort into helping the process of self-examination and "re-direction" about life, and his and his sons' time astream. Over the past few months, he's sucked it up and stood tall, proving that every storyline is subject to editing, and that no book is ever complete until the final chapter has been written.

After their five-hour float downstream, me and mine met them at the appointed spot where their vehicle sat, and the "Fish Truck" hauling the riverboat's trailer. Obviously, a good time was had by everybody, given the description of the afternoon's trip. Once finished with myriad "Thank you's" all-around, the dust from their departing vehicle settled in their wake, and I lent a hand in tying the riverboat down to its trailer.

The man didn't discover our "gift"-- a small 5-wt. fly rod and reel --to his wife until late yesterday afternoon, and it took him hours to figure out how best to articulate his feelings, if his e-mail was any indication.

And, to that end, come Spring, 2014, we will be holding a "one-woman" Casting For Recovery event of our own. You see, the equipment in question once was the provenance of our late daughter, Laramie, and while Laramie may have lost her fight with leukemia, this man's wife is winning her battle with breast cancer.

After all, to my way of thinking, I can envision no better way to ensure that Laramie's legacy lives on. I feel safe in assuming that our late youngest daughter would approve, without reservation...
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I am speechless. I don't cry often, but this did it. You must write about this and get it published to share the hope and magic of this with others. Bless you for paying it forward, brother. And most of all, thank you for sharing this entire journey.
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Wow, Hairwing,

I have to stop reading this stuff at work. My boss came bouncing around the corner of my cube as I was reading this and I couldn't focus on what he was saying at all.

You are truly a blessed person who blesses others.

Makes me hang my head. Keep it going!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Guys,

I did what I did for two reasons, and nothing more. The first is that the gifting of the little 5-wt. was the right thing to do, as it will keep alive the memory of a beautiful girl whose life ended far too soon. Within the woman who now calls the rod her's rests a deep sense of appreciation for the rod's history, and an intense respect for its former owner.

Reason #2 rests squarely with the fact that it was time... time for me to be at peace with the late Laramie's memory, and time for me to again celebrate her life. She was our youngest, the last of our four girls to come into her own among the fly-wranglers in this house. She was my "bench-partner" at the tying desk until the last days of her life.

When the Spring of 2014 comes around and I again take on the task of teaching yet another how best to use that little 5-wt. fly rod, I will remember the hours of endless false casts and wind knots that went before. And, for a moment or two, I will be transported back to a time long ago that the father in me will recall in only the best of ways...
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Jerry: I have said it before, but it deserves to be said again......you are my hero! God bless you and your family for all the things that you do to help others in need!

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Jerry,

You are a man of many wonderful gifts. One of which is your ability to share your rich experiences through the written word.

I've read your posts with the anticipation reserved for one of those novels I just can't put down. Except this has been with the knowledge that the message is something real, something tangible, something life changing for all involved.

Your story is simply wonderful, not just for its content, but for the way you have conveyed the message here and shared it with all of us. As I sit here this evening, you have brought me to tears. The tears are the result of something sad, yet happy and beautiful at the same time.

May God bless you and your family, Jerry. You've accomplished something truly worth celebrating. It would be a privilege to make your acquaintance someday. You and your family are welcome on my porch or next to my fire anytime.

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The lock on one of my tying desk drawers-- lower drawer, stage right --resisted my initial attempts to open it at 4:00 am today, the proper key notwithstanding. After a shot or two of lock-freeing graphite and a few moments of allowing the stuff to do its job, the key slipped into the mechanism with ease and the inner workings fell into place.

The drawer in question has seen the light of day only twice in the last 6 years, and for good reason. Within it rests a pair of fly-tying vises, and more memories and hurt than Dear Old Dad had the heart to endure. The two vises in question belonged to Lauren, our second-eldest daughter who was taken from us by a drunk driver in 2007, and our youngest, Laramie, who lost her life to the ravages of leukemia in 2010. After their respective funerals, "Doc" helped me take down their tying vises and add them to the drawer before locking them away.

And, the vises have remained out of sight-- and out of mind --for what I now realize has been far too long. I've been re-thinking myriad things lately, and my "change of heart," if you will, is part and parcel of me taking heed to some very sound and very wise advice. I've spent my days grieving the passings of two of our four daughters, and now, I will celebrate their lives in whatever small way I can.

A part of my paying tribute to the late Lauren will commence when the woman who now holds Laramie's little 5-wt. fly rod as her own, begins the fly-tying sessions that I've agreed to teach to her and her husband. She will tie her first flies on Lauren's vise, an older Regal that somehow suited its former owner. Lauren approached her tying with an almost direct simplicity-- she tied only about a dozen patterns, but she tied them all extremely well. While the "special" tying classes are in session, her vise again will steady a hook. But, always, it will remain here...

As for the tool of choice for the fly-tying artistry of our late Laramie-- her beloved Dyna-King --I've decided that it, too, will mimic a bit of the past, in that it will again serve as perhaps the last vise for one very special member of the annual tying classes for "my kids." A young girl named Emily will join us once more this late Fall and Winter for what will be her fourth and final class sessions, and she will wrap her hooks on Laramie's vise. Her prognosis isn't good, and she may well be gone before the holiday season of 2014. (You can read more about this courageous young lady in the last entries in the post, "I Met Myself Last Night...)

And, when the end does indeed come, I will deliver the eulogy as asked before returning Laramie's Dyna-King to the drawer. Come that day, however, the key will be set aside and the drawer left unlocked, just in case...

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Jerry,

I'm speechless. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you've endured these past years after losing Laramie and Lauren.

I can only think that Emily finds great comfort in your kindness and understanding and realizes the significance of what you are sharing with her. I'm not usually a praying man, but I will say a prayer today for you and your family, and for Emily.

Your strength is an inspiration for others. I hope everyone on this forum takes the time to read your posts, for there are life lessons here for which there is no road map to navigate. You have found your way through the roughest terrain.

God bless you, Jerry.

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